Have you ever found yourself in an unequal relation? We appreciate how problems can easily occur between unequal partners.

 

We call the one with greater stature the Impactor. Because they tend to impact others more than being impacted.

 

We call the one with lesser stature the Impactee. Because they tend to be impacted more than impacting others.

 

The Impactor tends to impose compliance from the one with lesser statue. Often with painful consequences. For example, employers pressuring employees to work harder can result in decreased productivity.

 

The Impactee tends to comply passively or may angrily resist. Also with painful consequences. For example, they may sue, or give bad reviews and bad press, or even resort to violence.

 

We offer an attractive alternative. We call it Value Relating.

 

What We Offer

Have you ever found yourself in an unequal relation? We appreciate how problems can easily occur between unequal partners.
IMPACTEE = IMPACTOR

Impactee is what we call the one with lesser stature. Because they tend to be impacted more than impacting others.

 

The Impactee tends to comply passively or may angrily resist. Also with painful consequences. For example, they may sue, or give bad reviews and bad press, or even resort to violence.

Impactor is what we call the one with greater stature. Because they tend to impact others more than being impacted.

 

The Impactor tends to impose compliance from the one with lesser statue. Often with painful consequences. For example, employers pressuring employees to work harder can result in decreased productivity.

We offer an attractive alternative. We call it Value Relating.
In VR, we call the one in a power differential with

We experience "value"

Value Relating primarily addresses power differentials. The person or entity enjoying signficant influence over another's life we call the "Impactor." The one who endures this impact, often with invisible impact upon their wellness outcomes, we call the "Impactee." Value Relating pursues a nonadversarial approach toward helping each other be more responsive to one another's needs.

A Power Differential Can Be Balanced

 

In other words, power corrupts value.

 

 

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"IMPACTOR"
"IMPACTEE"

Presumed to desire only a positive impact.

Presumed not to know all of their impacts.

Presumed to prefer learning how to improve their impact.

Presumed to prefer avoiding adversarial conflicts.

Presumed to be willing to invest in impact improvements.

 

 

Presenting as stressed by actions of Ascribed Impactor.

 

After we receive sufficient information about  your reported power differential, we guide you through the steps necessary to turn this unequal relation into one of mutual value.

Provisional planning
 

 

Stress Shame

 

even when you feel like giving up on them.

Value Relating offers

 

Negotiation in place of Conflict

 

even when power is kept accountable.

We experience "value"

"IMPACTOR"

Value Relating primarily addresses power differentials. The person or entity enjoying signficant influence over another's life we call the "Impactor." The one who endures this impact, often with invisible impact upon their wellness outcomes, we call the "Impactee." Value Relating pursues a nonadversarial approach toward helping each other be more responsive to one another's needs.

A Power Differential Can Be Balanced

 

In other words, power corrupts value.

 

 

"IMPACTEE"
 
Value Relating offers

 

Encounter in place of Alienation

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Value Relating offers

 

Encounter in place of Alienation

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We experience "value"

Value Relating primarily addresses power differentials. The person or entity enjoying signficant influence over another's life we call the "Impactor." The one who endures this impact, often with invisible impact upon their wellness outcomes, we call the "Impactee." Value Relating pursues a nonadversarial approach toward helping each other be more responsive to one another's needs.

A Power Differential Can Be Balanced

 

In other words, power corrupts value.

 

 

Value Relating offers opportunity in place of

 

Impactee's Stress

 

which may increase risks for poor wellness outcomes.

Process when initiated by Impactee:

1. Recognize each other's needs and offer to mutually resolve non-adversarially.
2. Indicate relation's negative impact upon capacities to be of value to self and others.
Empathy Invitation
3. Commit working together to amicably resolve each other's identified needs.
Value Exploration
Value Outcome
Value Impact

 

Impactor's Shame

 

that may increase risks for alienating audiences.

Process when initiated by Impactor:

1. Offer to support mutual value if in a non-adversarial manner.
Value Proposition
2. Identify conditions for offer and likely negative outcome if conditions are not met.
Value Negotiation
3. Commit working together to amicably resolve each other's identified needs.
Value Agreement

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precontemplation
contemplation
Value Prop/Plan examples
Value Grievance examples
Value Proposition
Value Compact examples
Offer $ if value met
Value Grievance
Value Invitation
Value Agreement
Value Relating offers

 

Shared Value in place of Costs

 

even when the "system" seems rigged against you.

Value Outcome
Value Impact
IMPACTEE

Instead of

resigning to stressful economic conditions,

 

Value Relating offers

to help you change economic relations toward your favor.

IMPACTOR

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The process is geared toward the Impactee.

After submitting your profile,

adversarial relation

Mentorship options to Impactors. Perhaps call them “impactorship” in the sense of proactive impact upon impactees/mentees.

These could be prepackaged programs that can be readily adjusted to fit the need, and sold as a consultancy project to guide adjustment and implementation, along with impact measures to fulfill agreed needs. For example, the Dream­Startups model could be one such option.

These are to be pitched as preferred ways to build value, over alternatives that can be identified as squandering or even consuming precious value.

Value Relating offers

 

Specialized Care in place of Carelessness

 

even when there are many needs to serve.

Economic Value

Sponsorship - Mentorship - Partnership

Political Value
Justice Value
IMPACTEE

Instead of

resigning to stressful economic conditions,

 

Value Relating offers

to help you change economic relations toward your favor.

Instead of

resigning to the paralysis of political polarization,

 

Value Relating offers

to address the relational needs behind political biases.

Instead of

suffering the limits baked into the adversarial justice process,

 

Value Relating offers

to restore relations by prioritizing one another's relevant needs.

IMPACTOR

Instead of

alienating your audiences with inaccurate assumptions,

 

Value Relating offers

to help you proactively impact  your many audiences.

Instead of

getting frustrated by the apparent ignorance of your political foes,

 

Value Relating offers

opposition research that gives you insight into their needs.

Instead of

subjectively objectifying parties as solely adversarial,

 

Value Relating offers

to improve objectivity in how we treat all human subjects.

Instead of treating just the individual, as if all our problems are only in our heads, Value Relating offers to treat the relations between us, since wellness is psychosocial. Instead of suffering from our limiting overdependence upon rugged individualism, Value Relating offers to bridge the divide between influential stressors and the vulnerably stressed. Toward the goal of bringing out more of the bottled up value and energy within us all.

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Value Relating offers opportunity in place of

 

Impactee's Stress

 

that increases risks for poor wellness outcomes.

Process when initiated by Impactee:

1. Offer to mutually resolve one another's needs.
Value Proposition
2. Speak truth to power to invite attention to the need.
Value Grievance
3. Work together to resolve each other's needs.
Value Compact

 

Impactor's Shame

 

that increases risks for alienating your audiences.

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