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Actively Doing Life

for aging seniors

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If your loved one is rapidly transitioning through the continuum of care, this tool could be indispensable.


Activities of daily living


Which do you think is more likely?

Seniors sent to nursing homes decline rapidly because

they naturally age rapidly once admitted.


Senior’s needs change so rapidly

that institutions may fail to keep pace.

Unique to Value Relating is keeping caregiver institutions accountable to resident needs with the resident's own documented evidence of service. We recognize an aging senior's needs grows complicated as they decline and unable to express them as effectively.

We introduce a deeper understanding of senior needs, as well as caregiver needs. We apply anankelogy, the study of need. Anankelogy asserts:

"There is no such thing as pain

apart from unresolved needs."


A senior presenting with dementia who complains of hunger minutes after eating a full meal likely is suffering some other unmet need. The more of these unmet needs remain unresolved, the more of a threat to the senior's wellbeing.


The longer these needs get overlooked, the less hope the senior feels to endure the challenges of aging. What appears as natural aging could actually be the consequence of inadequate responsiveness to their changing needs.

Institution mission creep

Anankelogy also looks at the institution’s needs. It recognizes how their needs play an important role in keeping pace with senior needs.


Sociology recognizes how institutions start with a noble purpose. But over time their emphasis shifts to sustaining itself. 


At its start, they passionately serve the senior's changing needs. Their service requires many professional resources.

A power relation emerges

Seniors become vulnerably dependent on these expensive services. A power relation puts them at a disadvantage.

The Actively Doing Life tool illuminates this imbalance. The tool can help link the senior's decline to specific changes in document service.

Present your documented service changes to eldercare providers, with the associated changes in the senior's wellbeing. Inform them of their gaps in service. See mutual benefit unfold.

Know your options

Or you may run into some resistance. The power imbalance may silence your best efforts. Value Seniors balances this power relation. 

You basically swing back and forth between two nasty options, causing you to miss your best and third option.

  1. Avoidance options - to endure the initially mild yet mounting pain of persisting annoyance to avoid the sharper pain of open conflict.

  2. Adversarial (or belligerence) options - to relieve the pain by fighting the apparent source of that pain. 

  3. Conciliatory options - to remove the pain by solving the problem by resolving the underlying needs.

Consider first the problems you face within the typical first two options. Then consider hiring us to enable you to SPEAK TRUTH TO POWER. And to help them see the value in LISTENING TO THOSE IMPACTED.


Inform you

I provide you this free information you can only get by downloading it here on Value Relating. It's your DIY option, at no out of pocket costs to you.


Guide you

I walk you through this tool to show you how best to use it. All by SMS text messaging over our phones. I serve as your personal tutor, guiding you through a new way to understand politics.


Support you

I show you how to optimize the tool to make the most of its information, using Zoom. I serve as your personal coach, to show and inspire you how to use this information in your life.


Advocate for you

I grow your value by contacting others on your behalf with your tool-provided information. I serve as your public advocate, to lead the way for resolving your needs.

See these options in more detail at our consulting page

See if any of these free tools help you resolve needs, remove pain, and uplift your life. As we grow we will be adding more of these.

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