Defuse polarization by stepping outside of divisive politics

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Abortion

Pro-life

Pro-choice

No restrictions

Ban all abortions

Granted, available positions on this issue tend to be more complex than this. The positions provided here offer a provisional starting point, to spur your appreciation for our diversity of needs.

Spread unifying love in 3 steps

1. Be loved

View introductory video above, if you haven’t already. Then view these videos below specific to this issue. Text is provided below each one. Get to the heart of your politicized needs.

Receive our affirmation for your specific needs. Set yourself apart from political generalizing meant for someone else. Be affirmed for who you specifically are.

2. Give love

Look at another’s political views from their unique situation. Affirm their needs, as we affirm yours.

In other words, internalize this transcendent message of love here. Live it and let it spread.

3. Spread love

Share the memes below in various social media. Help inspire others to break free from the hate.

Use the “Share the love of Unifying Politics” Facebook button to help broadcast this vision.

Be part of a grassroots movement that replaces the hate of polarization with messages of love.

BE LOVED

Be Loved

Are you shouting to the choir, past each other?

Are you seeking only relief?

Are you mired in polarizing hate?

What is current your stance on

Abortion

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Have you lost any friends or family connections over your expressed views on it?

Do you hesitate to bring it up, or anything political, to avoid sparking a bitter feud?

Or are you ready to step beyond this bitter divide?

Are you ready to resolve needs?

Are you ready for unifying love?

Appreciate how your differing situations shape your psychosocial needs, which in turn shape our political outlook.

Appreciate your differing needs

Your situation prioritizes your psychosocial needs. Your social situation drives your liberal perspective. You experience one need over another.

privacy over intimacy

The need for autonomy over her own body exceeds any consideration for what others may say about her reproductive decisions. In the face of such a deeply personal and socially controversial decision, her need for privacy overrules any awkward intimacy with others somehow affected by her decision with her own body.

This need for privacy over something as precious as an unborn child strikes the other side as odd. Since the focus here is on her own needs, apparently not the unborn child’s or family as a whole, the other side is aghast at this “murder.”

Defensiveness rises. Slogans fly. Exaggerations obscure understanding. Empathy grinds to a halt. Polarization sets in.

CONTESTED TERM: life starts at birth. You believe life starts at birth because you need life to not start until birth.

Instead of denouncing the other side as anti-choice, look at their social situation. See how much they rely on family. See how devastating for them if making reproductive decisions without their regard.

Your situation prioritizes your psychosocial needs. Your social situation drives your conservative perspective. You experience one need over another.

intimacy over privacy

The need for family cohesion exceeds any consideration for personal autonomy, as the life she carries is already embraced by her family. In the face of challenges to grow healthy families, her need to maintain intimate bonds around the sanctity of life takes precedence over any need for bodily privacy.

This need for putting family interests over the mother’s bodily autonomy strikes the other side as odd. Since the focus here is on the supportive family and life in general, the other side cannot relate from their experience of low supports.

Defensiveness rises. Slogans fly. Exaggerations obscure understanding. Empathy grinds to a halt. Polarization sets in.

CONTESTED TERM: life starts at conception. You believe life starts at conception since you need life to start as soon as conception.

Instead of denouncing the other side as anti-life, look at their social situation. See how vulnerable they must be. See how frightening to bring a child into this world without proper supports.

GIVE LOVE

Give Love

Does your politics let you "love thy enemies"? Do you persuade with love?

Spread your love

If you hear someone on the right denounce pro-choice politics, try this.

Listen. Respond with compassion.

Hold back your anger. Don’t react.

At that moment, it’s not about what you need. It’s not about your reproductive rights. It’s not about your freedom to choose. Hold that thought.

It’s about how much loving concern you can give for their need to cherish unborn life. It’s about how compassionate you are to their inflexible need to sanctify innocent life.

Don’t expect to change them to your political view, to suddenly honor all your reproductive rights. But don’t be surprised either if they are now more open to your pro-choice perspective.

The more ears attentive to their pain, the less they cling to generalizing about the life of the unborn. The freer they can let go of their animosity to abortion clinics, the easier to let you in on some vulnerable specifics. Love then flows more readily.

Feel their own struggle with an unplanned pregnancy. Recognize their moral priority to put the needs of their unborn child ahead of their own. See life from their point of view. It just might make their day. And yours.

Be present for them. Hear what they are not saying, what they perhaps will never be able to say to you, or to anyone. You may never know about the shame they suffer from a regretted abortion.

Encourage each other to reciprocate this love. Since you both need to be understood. Together, you both can now…

If you hear someone on the left denounce pro-life politics, try this.

Listen. Respond with compassion.

Hold back your anger. Don’t react.

At that moment, it’s not about what you need. It’s not about your sanctity of innocent life. It’s not about you cherishing unborn lives. Hold that thought.

It’s about how much loving concern you can give for their reproductive needs. It’s about how compassionate you are to their unbending need to control their own body.

Don’t expect to change them to your political view, to suddenly honor the sacred life of every unborn child. But don’t be surprised either if they are now more open to your pro-life perspective.

The more ears attentive to their pain, the less they cling to generalizing about their right to choose. The freer they can let go of their refusal to consider alternatives, the easier to let you in on vulnerable specifics. Love then flows more readily.

Feel how they struggle with unplanned pregnancy. Recognize their moral priority to have their life in place before bringing a child into this world.. See life from their point of view. It just might make their day. And yours.

Be present for them. Hear what they are not saying, what they perhaps will never be able to say to you, or to anyone. You may never know about the level of regret they felt over a past abortion.

Encourage each other to reciprocate this love. Since you both need to be understood. Together, you both can now…

spread the love

Spread Love

SPREAD LOVE

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Ready to help overcome political polarization?

Ready to help spread some love?

Here is your opportunity to affirm each other’s inflexible needs behind their political views.

No upfront arguing. Simply give each other needed space to express their politicized needs.

You don’t give your position on the issue. Not yet. You simply share how you appreciate both sides must express a politically sensitive need.

If you could do something about polarized politics, here’s your chance.

Copy one of these images below. Right-click on the image of your choice, and select Copy Image.
Go to one of your social media accounts. Paste the image there.
Copy the URL link to this page, in your browser’s address bar above.
Paste that along with the image in your social media.
Personalize it. In your own words, share what this unifier message means to you.

You can also use the Tweet button above left. And the Facebook button above right: "Share the love of Unifying Politics."

That’s it. Inspire others to step beyond the political divide, to respect each other’s underlying needs.

By respecting their needs, you demonstrate how they are to respect your needs. One responsible act of loving understanding at a time.

No arguing. No debating. No fighting.

You simply spread some love. And encourage any responses to come back to this page. To be loved, as you are loved, for who you are, needs and all.

Rinse and repeat.

Challenge any polarizing hate with unifying love

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